Do Not
Punish Harvard Women for Men’s Behavior: Vote Yes to the Lewis Motion
It is astonishingly
paternalistic for Harvard to threaten the support groups of hundreds of women
in the name of ridding the university of elite men’s clubs. This should spark
outrage among faculty, administrators, and students, but instead has, among
many, merely sparked a “what a shame” reaction. “What a shame” that the
sororities and women’s groups doing good on our campus, empowering women, providing
desperately needed support for women, leading charitable fundraisers, and
contributing so significantly to women’s mental health “have to go.” The
premise has been that women must not be allowed to join groups without men –
for their own good – because it is the only way to “get at” men’s final clubs.
An underlying justification has been that women must be protected from making
bad social decisions such as waiting in line to get into men’s final club
parties. Banning women’s off- campus groups is not and
has never been about opening women’s support or friendship groups to men, in
order to end some supposed form of discrimination against men. The consistent
refrain of “it’s a shame” that Harvard must eliminate women’s groups through
sanctions or to otherwise deal with the behaviors of men is outrageous and
unconscionable. Make no mistake – this is sexism – as
it has existed in the past but now in more insidious form, as it is now clothed
in anti-discrimination verbiage and purported rationale. This point
has been previously made, but women’s protests, begging for Harvard to hear
them, marching in unity, have been met with the response that women groups are
unfortunate collateral damage for a more noble cause – this cause of protecting
them. This is egregious. How can it be tolerated?
Incorrect assumptions and
biases exist regarding sororities. I had some of those same assumptions before
I came to Harvard. They were wrong. The truth is that Harvard sorority women
are diverse, intelligent, and serious-minded, from different socioeconomic
groups, with different religious beliefs, political views, sexual orientations,
personalities, and experiences, coexisting in friendship, kindness, and unity
and providing safety for women. No parties or alcohol
are allowed in the sororities’ spaces. Sororities are inherently and
intentionally values-based organizations. New member education includes
training on standards of behavior expected by the sorority nationally, strict
policies regarding alcohol and drugs, education about sexual assault, healthy
relationships, bystander intervention, and more. Sorority members have credited
the support they have received from these off- campus groups with helping them
overcome depression, suicidal feelings, eating disorders, and other mental health issues in ways
that on-campus groups have not. Dismantling off-campus social groups in which
one-third of women on campus have found significant support and improved mental
health outcomes is both illogical and harmful. When the rationale for doing so is based on a perceived necessity
to curb men’s behavior, it becomes indefensible.
Philanthropic commitment and
community service are significant sorority values and emphases. Alpha Phi’s
motto is “Union Hand in Hand,” and its philanthropic focus is Women’s Heart
Health. Delta Gamma’s motto is “Do Good,” and its philanthropy is Service for
Sight, serving the blind and visually impaired and funding sight conservation
research. Kappa Alpha Theta’s motto is “Leading Women,” and its philanthropy is
Court Appointed Special Advocates, serving and advocating for children in the
foster care system. Kappa Kappa Gamma’s motto is “Aspire to Be,” and its
philanthropy is Reading is Fundamental, working to promote children’s literacy.
Sororities promote friendship, leadership, kindness, character, and service
intentionally - declaring that those qualities are as important as, if not more
important than, being accomplished. Sisterhood is the goal, not a side effect.
The most vocal and
impassioned opposition to the sanctions has come from women, not the men’s
final clubs, because the final clubs can evade the sanctions and function much
as they always have. I obviously do not purport to speak for all women,
including all sorority women, but I am one of hundreds of current Harvard women
and thousands of alumnae who have found strength and support in off-campus
sisterhood. More women than men are adversely impacted by the penalties of the
Khurana sanctions. Are we not at a time in our country and history where we recognize
the urgent need for women to have the freedom to unite in friendship and
sisterhood, to embrace the values they deem important, and to speak out against
injustice? We must demand an answer to the question – why is it acceptable for
sororities to be swept up in the anti-men’s final clubs frenzy? Why not, as our
peer schools Yale, Princeton, and Stanford have done, work on the issues deemed
problematic, rather than banning off-campus women’s groups (as well as other
off-campus groups) with threats of penalization? Why are hundreds of Harvard
women’s voices being silenced?
The sanctions and penalties
are overbroad, unjust, and have a disproportionate adverse effect on women.
Unconscionably, sororities are completely left out of
the discussion on the effects or reason for penalties. No acknowledgement is made
that going coed is not possible per the national rules and charters of
sororities, and therefore sororities would simply have to be closed, while
men’s final clubs - the primary
target of the sanctions – would be able to make meaningless adjustments to come
into technical “compliance.” (For example, some of the men’s club proposals
include their members not becoming “real members” until after graduation,
allowing the finals clubs to exist as alumni clubs, which would not be impacted
by penalties or sanctions.)
The question of the
sanctions is not a question of whether or not any off-campus social
organizations need reform, but whether or not University sanctions will
accomplish any intended goals. All proposed plans thus far would force
sororities to shut down, while men's final clubs - the intended targets of the
sanctions - will be virtually unaffected. Clubs will either go underground,
perhaps like underground fraternities at Amherst or like secret societies at
Yale, or, as more recently discussed, will become alumni clubs, of which
students will not "officially" be members until they graduate, taking
the clubs even further out of the administration's purview and making them even
more untouchable for reform than they currently are. If the administration's
goal is truly reform, rather than simply meaningless action on paper, the only
way to achieve that is to work with clubs, rather than further alienate or
threaten them. In response to current sanctions, overwhelmingly, behind closed
doors, most men's clubs have lawyered up and dug in their heels, knowing they
can get around anything thrown at them by the administration, with little to no
functional change, in a way that organizations without comparable resources or
with national bylaws cannot.
The idea that national
sorority groups are in some way pernicious or nefarious is based on false and
discriminatory stereotypes. These national organizations provide invaluable
leadership training, are grounded in shared values, and focus on critical
issues affecting women. Last month’s issue of one of the national sorority
magazines, for example, featured the organization’s specific efforts to address
violence against women, including leading the conversation on consent and
providing resources and opportunity to confront sexual violence. I would ask
those who assume they understand what these groups offer in terms of mental
health and other support whether they have actually tried to learn about what
sororities do. Has UHS or the administration ever even studied the positive
impact of sororities on Harvard women’s mental health or the adverse impact of
losing such groups that more than one-third of Harvard women have chosen to
join?
If Harvard students want to
be members of organizations that have national networks and governing bodies,
on their own time, with their own money, without use of Harvard’s name, and not
in Harvard’s spaces, they should be allowed to do so. They certainly should not
be penalized for being part of groups dedicated to their well-being even though
Harvard does not vet or monitor such groups. Harvard women are
capable of making their own decisions about what groups empower them.
I hope for the emotional
well-being of one-third of the women on campus, that the administration and
faculty reconsider the notion that the “health and well-being of our student
body” necessitates telling young women that joining together for strength and
mutual support, in organizations explicitly protected by Title IX, is an
offense so severe as to be deserving of suspension, termination, or severe
penalty.
I urge the faculty and
administrators not to adopt punishments that would penalize women from
exercising their freedom to join in sisterhood for support, unity, friendship,
empowerment, and philanthropy. Such actions are not progress, nor do they
promote justice.
Instead, I urge passage of
the Lewis motion, which protects women’s rights and wellbeing. Passage of the
Lewis motion allows women’s groups to continue to exist and also provides the
administration the opportunity to address desired final club reforms, as our
peer schools Yale, Princeton, and Stanford have done, without driving male
final clubs underground.
Margaret Wilson, Harvard
College Class of 2019
Jordan Virtue, Harvard College Class of 2020
Hayley Edgerley, Harvard College Class of 2019
Cora Neudeck, Harvard College Class of 2019
Samantha Perri, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kathleen Barrow, Harvard College Class of 2019
Sophia Zheng, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kristine Falck, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kaitlyn Rabinovitz, Harvard College Class of 2020
Delaney Tevis, Harvard College Class of 2019
Emily Luu, Harvard College Class of 2019
Rebecca Ramos, Harvard College Class of 2017
Sophie Lipson, Harvard College Class of 2017
Caroline Gentile, Harvard College Class of 2017
Emma Wheeler, Harvard College Class of 2017
Bella Gomez, Harvard College Class of 2017
Rachel Milam, Harvard College Class of 2017
Hailey Reneau, Harvard College Class of 2017
Tina Murphy, Harvard College Class of 2017
Savanna Arral, Harvard College Class of 2016
Laura Gullett, Harvard College Class of 2016
Sarah Scalia, Harvard College Class of 2015, HBS 2019
Julia Kee, Harvard College Class of 2016
Jordan Virtue, Harvard College Class of 2020
Hayley Edgerley, Harvard College Class of 2019
Cora Neudeck, Harvard College Class of 2019
Samantha Perri, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kathleen Barrow, Harvard College Class of 2019
Sophia Zheng, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kristine Falck, Harvard College Class of 2020
Kaitlyn Rabinovitz, Harvard College Class of 2020
Delaney Tevis, Harvard College Class of 2019
Emily Luu, Harvard College Class of 2019
Rebecca Ramos, Harvard College Class of 2017
Sophie Lipson, Harvard College Class of 2017
Caroline Gentile, Harvard College Class of 2017
Emma Wheeler, Harvard College Class of 2017
Bella Gomez, Harvard College Class of 2017
Rachel Milam, Harvard College Class of 2017
Hailey Reneau, Harvard College Class of 2017
Tina Murphy, Harvard College Class of 2017
Savanna Arral, Harvard College Class of 2016
Laura Gullett, Harvard College Class of 2016
Sarah Scalia, Harvard College Class of 2015, HBS 2019
Julia Kee, Harvard College Class of 2016
Well written, well argued, irrefutable.
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ReplyDeleteVery thoughtful and articulate piece that hopefully won’t fall on deaf ears. I wholeheartedly agree and applaud this message. At the same time, and although it may be hard for some to believe, much the same could be said of the men’s final clubs today. It would be similarly correct to say that “The truth is that Harvard [final club men] are diverse, intelligent, and serious-minded, from different socioeconomic groups, with different religious beliefs, political views, sexual orientations, personalities, and experiences, coexisting in friendship, kindness, and unity...”. The assault on men’s final clubs began as an attack on behaviors, but when that argument began to unwind in the face of reality, it notably shifted to an attack on the concept of “exclusivity”... which, viewed through a different lens, is the crux of the close associations that engender the many positive outcomes cited in this letter.
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